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Following Your Dreams: Recognizing the Defining Moment

I don’t post here every day because I don’t always feel I have something worth saying. I’d much rather gain your trust over time, so you realize once I do post something on this website it will be worth your time to read.

I constantly take mental notes of what I’ve come to understand since my last entry, where I’ve improved and where I’ve declined. Yesterday I lived a life completely different from the life I lead today. The difference is, I’m learning faster.

The natural progression of life consists of a series of thoughts and dreams, accumulated over time and actualized by the self. Once you can envision your aspirations becoming reality, the only thing stopping you is you.

Your mind is your greatest asset. If you don’t truly believe in yourself and your convictions, the universe will wait for you to believe before actuating them. Life is a game of challenges that never ends. When you die, you’ll have 50 things you still needed to do, should have done, or wanted to do. You simply can’t do everything. Your decisions are yours alone and life won’t wait for you to weigh all the options.

I’ve began to realize many things about success and business, I had no choice but to share them with you.

The key to success is to be happy. The key to life is to Love.

If you love who you are, it shows. When you love what you do, you’ll work tirelessly to perfect your craft. When your work is a labor of love, you’ll feel as if you never worked a day in your life.

The greatest way to experience Love is to share it.

I am fulfilled by helping somebody follow their dreams. Helping them succeed. To do for them what others have done for me.  To reach out at every opportunity to leave the world a better place than it was when I got here.

When our final day in this flesh vehicle comes to be, the universe will open our minds to all its secrets.

“Don’t waste your time living somebody else’s life.” – Steve Jobs

When you follow your dreams, there will be a defining moment you’ll never forget.

You may not have experienced it yet, but if you have you’ll know exactly where I’m coming from.

There will be a moment you look back on everything you have ever done. You’ll remember every time you worked late, every success and every failure, every second you poured into building your dream as you had always envisioned it. You’ll look around you and you’ll look at yourself. You’ll look at what your life has become and what path you willingly decided to take.

And then, you’ll cry.

In these tears of doubt lie the true seeds of success. Because at that moment you’ll be faced with a make or break decision that will alter the trajectory of your life and lay the foundation for your true existence.

It was somewhere around 5am in 2010. I had been up all night working on a website, trying desperately as I have for as long as I could remember, to build my business into what I had always dreamed of.

All of the sudden, I stopped. I looked around. I looked in the mirror. I looked at my unorganized desk and my messy bedroom. I looked at the deflated air mattress I’d been sleeping on for 4 months. I thought of my nearly empty bank account. I looked out the window at the beautiful palm trees swaying in the wind and back at myself in my tiny, dusty bedroom.

I said out loud, “what the f__ are you doing?”. You’ve wasted the last 10 years of your life working for something you’ll never achieve. You’ve wasted your time, your body, your talent, your potential, your mind, your money, for this. And what do you have to show for it?

Then I cried.

I pounded my fists on my desk, put my head in my hands and cried. I thought about my brother, how much I missed the time we spent together and how I wished I could ask him what to do. I felt alone. I thought about giving up.

I won’t tell you that I heard him, I won’t tell you that I spoke to him, I won’t tell you that I know exactly what happened, but after all of my self-doubt boiled over into a self-loathing soup I had never before tasted, my mind went blank and I could only hear one thing.

“Do it.”

It wasn’t until many moons later that I realized this may have been the most important moment of my career. For at that moment, I had reached the bottom.

I awoke later that day with the saltiness of tears still on my face but an entirely new vision of what needed to be done. I wasn’t going to give up this easily. I wasn’t going to give up if it was the last thing I do. I’d come too far, for too long, I’d put in every ounce of my heart into this and I wasn’t going to just give up without dying for it.

For it is at your weakest moment, your greatest moment of self-doubt, when you feel you have completely failed and there is no hope left; at that very moment the decision you make will be the most important. The decision to pursue your personal legend no matter time nor money nor effort required will be the defining moment of who you really are. And it is then and only then will you realize if you can wipe away the tears, get back up and work harder.

Only you can make yourself, and this is when you’ll realize if you have what it takes.

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Connecting the Dots

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I’m completely invigorated by life and its constant ability to change and grow.  Yesterday was the past and today is a vast new opportunity.  Appreciation for every situation, positive or not, is essential to navigating life with greater ease and purpose.  Each lesson, albeit very difficult on occasion, is always a new opportunity to learn.

One thing is for sure, positive energy has a tremendous effect on the psyche.  Love is the truth, passion is enlightening and the thirst for knowledge is never quenched.  Support and spread your influence about what you believe in, passive support isn’t much support at all. When love drives what we do, the real payoff comes from the act itself and not specifically from the reward.

Come alive

Plentiful opportunity knocks at every door.  Moments of great clarity come when I realize I’m free to go a different direction at any time. We can be persuaded and influenced, but our decisions are our own.

Out of nowhere

Business was sluggish one day and a minor panic attack led me on a frantic web search to figure out why my business wasn’t making any money.   Turns out I’d been doing the same old thing and expecting a different result.  The industry had evolved past me.

I looked back at my progress and found myself overwhelmed with immense frustration.  For years I’d followed what I loved and stuck with the “slowly but surely” method, always believing what I’d read from Bob Parsons back when I first got started; “When you’re doing something you love, it tells you all its secrets.”

Just as soon as I came close to losing faith, something reignited the spark in me as I sat wide-eyed and jaw dropped with opportunity.  Something I’d overlooked for years was about to transform my life, my business and connect all the dots.  Just like that, I could build better websites, more efficiently, cheaper and in half the time. That day WordPress found me.

Over the course of the next 18 months WordPress became the most essential tool in my online workshop, became the foundation of my business, took my services to a different level and created a wealth of new opportunities I hadn’t anticipated.

Everything changes at a moments notice and without end.  We can change the world by changing ourselves. Invigorated to grow, inspired to teach, empowered by technology, overwhelmed by passion, hungry for more, ambitious to thrive.

Truth is within, better self = better World. Experience nirvana.

“Good people are good because they’ve come to wisdom through failure.”
William Saroyan

Happy Birthday Tnapz — 9/16/85

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Passion vs. Profit – Struggling To Do What You Love and 14 Lessons to Stay Focused

Ever been here? ^

We’ve heard it before. The familiar phrases: struggling artist, struggling new business owner, unnoticed blogger, battling against the odds. Someone mentions following an unfamiliar path and immediately the peanut gallery is quick to submit an opinion on why it’s not a good idea. There are clearly much safer choices.

Society tends to deter the inspired from following the career path of an artist, actor, writer, creator or somebody who lives their life in an unfamiliar way; by alluding to a life without money, a continuous or never ending struggle, one in a million chances of success or by suggesting we face this apparent reality that we’re not special enough – those people are ‘lucky.’

“After all, we can’t all be artists can we? Who’s going to pick up the trash?”

Eventually you start to believe crazy things:

I couldn’t possibly work hard for something until it succeeds. Nobody ages, positions of power never shift and there isn’t a soul out there that might agree with me. The market is too saturated, there isn’t room for me in that industry, those guys are much better than I am. A range of discouraging notions cycle in your head until you’ve convinced yourself they were right. Everything you’ve thought, everything you’ve believed in up until this point, everything you’ve worked for to attain your dreams was a false reality you’ve created for yourself. All of this was for nothing.

Time to give up, throw in the towel, you can’t get it done. Can’t figure out how you want to spend every day of your life? Well you’d better figure it out. There’s always just enough money out there to convince you going for it isn’t worth a shot.

R E L A X. Turns out nobody has truly mastered this game, we’re all just playing; learning new things every day. Following the dream introduces a difficult obstacle course and sometimes your mind can throw you into a spiral. This is a list of 14 lessons I’ve been taught to remind and motivate (us) to keep struggling to do what we really want to do.

1. What you hear becomes what you believe

The more you tell something to other people, the more you hear yourself say it, the more you will believe it. Be truthful and honest to yourself and others, it will pay off in the long run. “Stop saying why it won’t work and focus on why it will.”

2. Don’t try to be perfect

Perfection is an illusion; people can appreciate you’re not perfect. Make your greatest effort at what’s important, deliver and move forward. Obsessing over details slows your progress, questioning yourself will leave all your projects 75% completed. Today’s headlines are tomorrow’s history. Learn from it and keep on moving.

3. Ideas are ideas

Until you’ve taken the first step, an idea floats around as a temporary projection of something desired. Though simple, writing things down is more substantial than saying “that’s a good idea, I should do that.”

4. You need to believe it

If you don’t believe in what you do, what you’re selling or what you’re talking about – then what are we talking about?

5. Work smart

Tackle what’s most important first, one step at a time. If you’re starting to panic, walk away. Go outside. Relax and come back later. This step is not negotiable. Panic causes quick, rash decisions and completely stops your creativity.

6. React appropriately

How you feel determines how you’ll feel. Don’t get caught up in the moment and make hasty decisions. “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” – Unknown

7. There will always be haters

“When you feed people the truth, you don’t know how they’re going to react … Be patient, for now.” – Nas

8. Take Risks

9. Trust Yourself

“People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.” – Simon Sinek

10. Enjoy it

Take a deep breath and gaze from time to time. Somehow gain pleasure from what you do or it’s not worth doing.

 

11. There is a time for everything

Time to relax, time to hustle, time to work, time to laugh, time to cry. Focus on each while you’re in it, embrace it; but realize everything happens in waves and vibrations; nothing ever stops moving.

 

12. Never give up, keep trying

If you enjoy the time you spend, you’re not spending time at all.

“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Steve Jobs

Alright, lets pretend Marshall Mathers never picked up a pen
Lets pretend things would have been no different
Pretend he procrastinated, had no motivation
Pretend he just made excuses that were so paper thin, they could blow away with the wind
Marshall you’re never gonna make it, makes no sense to play the game there ain’t no way that you’ll win
Pretend he just stayed outside all day and played with his friends
Pretend he even had a friend to say was his friend

Eminem – Airplanes Pt. 2

13. Passion will drive you keep trying

If you’re in it for the wrong reasons, frustration will eventually drive you to give up. Otherwise, it will only motivate you to keep trying harder. To find the right way, you’ll first discover seemingly countless wrong ways. If you haven’t yet succeeded to where you believe is appropriate, you haven’t yet exhausted every possible option – there is always a better way of doing everything.

– Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

– I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.

– There is always a better way.

– We don’t know a millionth of one percent about anything.

Thomas Edison

14. Pursue Happiness

Really the goal in life is happiness. The answer to life is be happy with what you have. I asked my 88 year old Grandfather what is the most important thing in life. Without hesitation, “your health.” How you feel affects everything you do, understand yourself. Live, Love and Prosper!